Mastering Love: A Journey Towards Authentic Connection – 36: The Law of Kindred

The quest for love, when navigated without understanding or adherence to its inherent laws, often leads individuals into turmoil, sometimes causing self-inflicted wounds in their search for connection. This brings us to a pivotal yet often overlooked law of love: the law of Kindred, or the principle that like attracts like.

This law posits that individuals are naturally drawn to and form enduring bonds with those who share similarities with them in fundamental ways. Contrasting with the popular adage that opposites attract, the law of Kindred suggests that while dissimilarities may initially spark interest, lasting relationships are built on common ground. Psychological research and theories on attraction and love lend credence to this notion, indicating that shared beliefs, values, and lifestyles are crucial for deep, enduring connections.

Love, in its multifaceted expressions, has evolved across different epochs, each shaping the concept of love in unique ways:

• Stone Age: The essence of love was rooted in alliances for survival, where mutual support in food gathering and protection was paramount. Childbearing was valued for the labor force it promised, emphasizing the role of fertility in the selection of partners.
• Ancient Civilizations: The interpretation of love varied significantly:
• Egypt: Love and marriage were seen as social arrangements to secure property and lineage.
• Greece: Marriages were economically driven, aimed at producing legitimate heirs, though love outside of marriage was common.
• Roman Empire: The focus was on producing legitimate heirs for inheritance and citizenship rights.

This historical backdrop raises intriguing questions about modern relationships. What happens when individuals with fundamentally different expectations and definitions of love come together? The scenarios from past civilizations highlight potential conflicts in contemporary relationships, underscoring the importance of alignment in core values and life goals.

Have you ever fallen in love with your opposite? How easy or difficult was the relationship? 

Reflection Questions:

1. Reflect on your own beliefs and values about love. How do these influence your choice of partners and the dynamics of your relationships?
2. Consider a past relationship where differences in fundamental beliefs or goals created challenges. What lessons did you learn about the importance of kindred spirits in love?
3. How can you ensure alignment with a potential or current partner in terms of core values, beliefs, and life goals to foster a deeper, more meaningful connection?